Dating two women
Yes, I’m being a little tongue and cheek here – success in any arena should be celebrated, not resented – but I really don’t think you understand the average person’s dating experience. We're all looking for love: the big kind, the one that will change the world as we know it. The two of them are so different, but both have qualities that spark your interest.
As it turns out, I met a third woman, who was so incredible that I immediately emailed the other two, broke things off, and took my profile down to commit. Let’s say Bachelor #2 turns out to be a great guy…who admits after two months that although he was excited about you, he’s on the rebound, not emotionally over his ex-girlfriend and is not fit to be your partner at this point in time. I predict that by the time you read this, Maggie, everything will have sorted itself out. Last month, I wrote to two men that I was very interested in.The good news is that both of them wrote me back and I have been seeing both for the past 2-3 weeks.Naturally, it took the third woman about two weeks to feel comfortable committing to me, but she eventually did. Yes, you’re dating two men, but that doesn’t mean that these are the only two men on the planet. So please come back and let us know if I retroactively steered you in the right direction, okay? Everywhere you went you just magically kept finding great women who were into you and wanted to date you!This is a somewhat complicated (but typical) example of how dating works. And neither party is under any obligation until both parties agree to commit to each other. Let’s say Bachelor #1 turns out to be a great guy…who admits after a month that he never wants to get married or have kids. You had the leisure of committing to someone before they committed to you because you always just assumed that so many women wanted to be with you that you could always get what you wanted.I know I need to make a decision before things go too far (becoming too physical), but how do I know when?
I am trying not to let things move too fast physically or emotionally, but they both seem very interested and I just don’t know what to do.
Your shame is palpable, but your indecision will always outweigh any guilt.
That ever-dreaded plague, the thing that keeps you wrapped up in both relationships: FOMO.
Things have been going well, and I give a lot of credit to what I have learned from your book, emails and this site.
However, this is not something I have ever done before and I am having a hard time with the idea of juggling.
The good news: because of the broad scope of the question, every reader who is interested in deciding between two men can use this advice.