Generic dating website messages
This past week alone I’ve gotten enough poorly-executed messages to make me want to curl up in a ball of being-alone I try not to lose hope that there can be some genuine connections made through meeting someone on of the internet. I’ve even made several lasting friends from some of my experiences.
Too short and they go in the pile of “not worthy,” too long and they go into the pile of “not reading that novel!Countless suitors asked about it, using it as an opportunity to break the ice, or learn more about her.2. After reading (skim if you must, but get down to the bottom) her profile narrative, see if you can find a few things that genuinely interest you. Then, write a line or two about your search for the best Dim Sum in the International District, or while you love playing in the mud, you haven't tried a warrior dash yet.3. Write enough to capture her interest, but not so much that you sound needy or too invested in her.Maybe she collects garden gnomes, or has an antique globe collection. More than a line, but not more than a paragraph is just fine for starters.Before sharing suggestions for killer first-contact messages, we illustrate our point from the " at the profile, you won't even get close to snaring the attention of that cutie.1. Reference her user name, so she knows you aren't sending the same generic messages, like bait. We've discovered that most people have a good story behind their user name.Our female guru has an ambiguous name that references her love of The Grateful Dead, her dreaming nature, and unintentionally, a college football team. Comment on the specifics using phrases like, "I noticed" or "You mentioned".This will help spark an idea about where to take the message. I can totally get down waxing all philosophical like while watching Arrested Development and drinking mugs full of coffee. (I think it’s on Amazon Prime so who knows if I’ll ever see it).
Bonus: You’ll find out if you truly want to message this person or if they’re just drawing you in with their physical appearance. Though the message is short, it creates a commonality and allows for a dialogue to easily start.
We all know the story: You’ve seen someone’s online or dating app profile and you like what you see.
Now it’s time to suss one another out, to see if they’re more than just a pretty face.
Three sentences are all you need to write in a first message—this establishes your interest and initiates conversation. Of course, finding your own tone and voice will definitely help too.
Good luck out there, and may the words be with you!
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