How to stop dating the wrong guys
Have you ever ordered dessert with out asking what all the choices are or looking at the dessert menu?Maybe you want chocolate cake, but you always want to know what your other options are so you can compare the chocolate cake you think you want to a potentially better dessert?
Girls will trade out looks for money at a certain point whereas guys never will.Her site, MSCheat Sheet.com, is dedicated to non-finance people because finance people are annoying. But you can still make an educated guess if the guy is working as a lawyer, doctor or startup anything in San Francisco… I was on a first date from an online dating site awhile back where *gasp* I let the girl pay for her own $3 iced coffee, in part because I was annoyed that she was both late and had posted much older pictures.She has worked in the asset management industry for 13 years and has factual data to back up her claim. I never used match but on another site you can see if the guy lives alone, has roommates, owns a car or a bike, and keep narrowing your income bracket, unless he just racked up debt for the past 10 years. I got a text message lecture later about how I should have paid because it “makes her feel like a lady.” Give me a break, every time a woman manipulates a guy (particularly one she barely knows) into buying her something in exchange for her time/affection, it sets women’s equality back just a little further.For those of you who’ve never been on these sites (or at least tell people you haven’t), there’s usually a place for guys to enter their income on their dating profile, it looks like this on match.com: So now we know this guy’s an English speaking liberal dancer who loves dogs, awesome. Whatever the case is, girls are left making of assumptions about a guy’s career since a lot of them don’t indicate how much money they make.Guys have it made because we know that nearly every girl puts her picture up (my guy friends have confirmed this for me).It’s harder to make a decision unless we see it in context relative to another comparable option.
The marketers at The Economist slipped in the print only option (at $125) to make the print & web subscription look more appealing (also at $125).
We make comparisons in order to help us make decisions for the same reason we stereotype people: it’s a short cut for our brain when we don’t want to think too hard about something.
Look at this example from Dan Ariely’s book Predictably Irrational: option, and ZERO chose the second option.
Jay loves talking about money, collecting coins, blasting hip-hop, and hanging out with his three beautiful boys. Don’t tell me to respect you as a capable equal, and then demand that I help you financially before we’ve even exchanged five sentences in person. Thanks for telling all guys to not put their income up!
Maybe you should quit putting your picture up if it is that important and agree to switch a picture for their W-2/tax return? If they don’t have a pic though, I’m not interested.
I wouldn’t be upset if the woman made as much or had a career path that allowed them to make a good income but if you’re just looking to be financially supported good luck! Not because I’m just interested in looks either, but a person who puts their pic up seems more invested in meeting someone.