Im dating your dad
One of the most terrifying moments of a not-yet-married man’s life is meeting his girlfriend’s father. Part of the problem is trying to understand a father’s role in his daughter’s pursuit of marriage.
Then learning how to deal with conflicts within a relationship can be painful, as well. The moment is a mountain to overcome in almost any relationship, but I believe it’s a mountain we, as Christians, can capture for the good of the daughter, the suitor, and the father.But as good as ideal sounds, it’s hard to find that picture in the Bible, and ultimately it’s far too simple for most not-yet-married realities anyways. What if she’s still single at 25, 30, maybe even 40?But there is an entire additional level of stress when, for some reason, you discover d put strain on your home life.When you discover your parents strongly disapprove of your bf/gf, your first inclination will be to pull away from them and continue your dating relationship behind their back. Never secretly date someone your parents don’t want you to date.As you identify the problems and come up with the plans to fix them, you will be well on your way to a more healthy and positive relationships between you, your bf/gf, and your parents.
Don’t forget, while boyfriends and girlfriends come and go, parents are forever.
The fact of the matter is, most people spend very little time researching and getting to know the other person before they start dating them. Carolyn commented that her response to her parents’ dislike of her boyfriend was to ask other people what they thought.
They [my parents] said he lied, cheated, and I shouldn’t be involved with him. So I thought about what they said and talked to more people.
Most parents will appreciate a bf/gf who treats you with respect and honesty. If they observe that you are often sad or hurt, those are red flags for them.
They will also appreciate someone who cares enough for .
Having secrets and lies between you and your parents ruins trust and causes needless stress and drama which will affect your self-esteem, grades, and even your other friends.