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Now you have a dependent son and a narcissistic mother. This co-dependent arrangement when it hits adulthood is bound to create dysfunction in both.The dysfunction often shows up the clearest in their relationships with others.
I would recommend to such a man that he not get married until he is ready to ‘divorce’ his mother. The plan is, stay bonded to mom until such time that you are convinced that it is time to separate, meaning go off and commit to another woman.The message to you, his wife (or lover, if you want to drop the married part) is, you can marry my son but I stay number one in his emotional life. The problem is, your husband has not yet left his mother. If you don’t leave your mother you don’t have the emotional space to be truly married.Can you tell there is an underlying emotional maybe physical competition going on in this message? When you are truly married you are committed 100% to another woman, your wife/lover.When the narcissistic mother has dug her claws into her dependent son you can pretty much bet there are underlying marital problems in the mother’s marriage to her husband.What will often happen is the narcissistic mother and her husband get to ‘avoid’ dealing with their marital problems by getting over-involved in other activities and people. For her husband it might be over-work, another woman, or simply emotional withdrawal.Number three, unfortunately, you can’t really make up for past love life disappointment by getting an adult person to ‘parent’ you.
It’s healthier to heal the hurt as loss and learn how to make the best life for yourself with mature forms of love as an adult person.
Horses, buggies, and kerosene lanterns will quickly grow stale without the faith foundation.” (, Stevick, p38). An Amish couple may separate, but divorce is nearly unheard of.
One Amishman estimated that there are perhaps a half-dozen separated couples in the large Holmes County, Ohio community.
You see, the mother who hangs onto her son past the time she is supposed to is expressing a certain kind of ‘narcissism.’ The narcissistic mother is trying to cure her problems within herself by hanging onto and expecting emotional things from her adult son.
There’s a certain selfish, perhaps self-indulgent quality to this.
Amish typically see joining purely for love as not the best reason, though it does happen. Or they may have fallen in love with what they think is a simpler way of life.