Recently been back on dating sites
I don’t want to come across as obsessive, or bother him, and I want to be pursued rather than chase him on the computer.What can you recommend I might say/do to regain his interest or just confirm that he’s still interested without seeming desperate? I’d at least like to have some closure if he doesn’t want to talk to me anymore.
Often women are very sensitive to avoid scaring guys off when they date online and given some concerns you express in your email along these lines, I would be surprised if your compliments were the problem.A more common possibility for why this is happening could be: The distance between the two of you is a concern for him.Again, distance is only one possible reason in the grand scheme of things.” I would recommend a simple, pleasant email asking how he’s been.Something along these lines would work fine: Hi So-and-so, How have you been doing? (Insert something here discussing some part of your life that you’ve discussed with him in the past that you can give an update on). And honestly, you could send an email like this after a few days. I understand not wanting to come off as obsessive or desperate but honestly an email after a few days is neither of these things.Your situation will likely vary but my thoughts are generally the same: some tiny detail on the difference in your last email is often not the reason.
So all this talk about what I think isn’t the problem might make you wonder if I have any guesses on what IS the problem.
Insulating Yourself from this Situation I don’t have any secret on preventing this situation from happening.
It happened to me more than once (twice that I can remember although I know it happened more often than that).
For other situations it could be having different religions or beliefs or just something as simple as not feeling a strong connection as quickly as he expected.
Now I’m not saying this is what happened but I think this scenario is more likely the cause than compliments or long emails.
I feel like I did something and I can’t figure out what it is.