Instead, children need to be held in line with what amount to incentives (and sometimes punishments) for acting as though other people matter.
I had a new realization of that phenomena while watching Bill Maher's new stand-up comedy special "The Decider" on HBO the other night.Something that can be suppressed but not eliminated.Where I want to go with this essay is not to talk about how to make bullying stop, but rather, to explore the sorts of damage bullies do to their victims, and to discuss a few paths through which some of that damage can be, at least in part, undone.Now, children are fairly narcissistic by their very nature.Children are not born appreciating that other people are actually just like they are with their own needs and independent rights.It's kind of a hot topic these days in a small sort of way.
Hopefully the things that researchers have and will come up will help limit the scope of the problem in the future.
I can vividly recall days when I would have to launch myself out of the school bus door and run as fast as I could up the hill to the shelter of my house.
A group of older neighborhood boys would be after me for reasons that were never entirely clear.
In this spirit, I offer my self-disclosure (and hijack Bill's) as seed for discussion.
There are lots of programs designed to help schools and other institutions prevent bullying.
I don't think I'd ever choose to subject myself to Michael's ministrations in order to have escaped my own bullying experiences (you gotta have standards in life), but I know I would have given a lot to have been able to stop them from happening.